
A note attached in a report card when a student returned it to me.
My heart sank to the bottom when I saw this the day she returned her report card to me. I think most of us have had this experience before. It was a horrifying feeling because first, you would be scolded for not meeting the benchmark, second, your report card was not signed, which means, you might need to face another round of punishment, by the teacher of course. Well…unless you could reason with the teacher.
I asked her what happened. She tried to recall. Before she could say anything, tears rolled down her cheek. From that moment, I knew I must not ask anymore. I sent her back to her seat. A lot of thoughts suddenly came to my mind. After that, we were doing some sentence writing exercises. I went around to check everybody’s work. She wrote, ‘I am sad.’. I am sorry I brought this unhappy memory back to her.
She is a fast learner in class. She is obedient, helpful and finishes her work quickly. I checked her marks for the semester exam. The mark she has got was quite good and above the class average. Her mother must have very high expectation on her.
I am not a parent. Therefore, I don’t know much about setting expectations on children. I think having expectations are good but results from an examination don’t give the whole picture. It is the matter of whether the child can apply what they have learned in their daily life. At least, that’s what I think. Do you agree?
Colin once seen an introduction of a talk show on TV. And coincidently, that part was talking about a father talking about his expectations towards his son. First, he said previously he doesn’t expect his son to be good in sports and he also doesn’t expect his son to get into famous universities. Then, his wife reminded him that if he said something like that, means that he is still expecting his son to achieve all those. In some point, that’s quite true. Then he said now, he doesn’t even want to think about all those any more. Having expectations is good but too much can be depressing for both the child and the parents. What do you think?